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[Ms.Wetback]

Grace ..........................

It is what God gives us,
yet it is something we don't want to give to our spouses and loved ones.

We are all different,
we all have different "quirks",
we are not here to "fix" our loved ones but to appreciate the differences we have.

To many times in a relationship we think we can "change" the person. Or we think our way of doing things and thinking is the "right" way and they need to see it our way. We are not here for "someone" to change us; God will change us through his love and in his own time make us more like Christ.

God created each of us uniquely, different, and in his image; accept the differences we are no more perfect then them.


"All Have Sinned and Fall Short of the Glory of God" - Romans 3:23

"ALL of our works are like filthy rags" - Isaiah 64:6





Maybe if we looked at our loved ones through the eyes of Christ instead of pointing fingers we would look at what WE can do to make our relationship better just as Christ looks past our failures.

[macjohn64]

AMEN...

[SUPERMAN]

Amen as well and I wish you could have a heart to heart with my wife possibly soon to be my ex wife. I love my kids and her so much. It's going to kill me if this marrige ends up in divorce. I've tried everything........counseling (my idea)......talking to her (but she hates talking things out..she just walks away).......and even kissing her ass. I don't know what else to do. I pray everynight before bed hoping that this will work itself out but as each passing day goes by and nothing good has come to pass....I wonder if he is hearing me.

[MissKBuff]

That's nice

Amen as well and I wish you could have a heart to heart with my wife possibly soon to be my ex wife. I love my kids and her so much. It's going to kill me if this marrige ends up in divorce. I've tried everything........counseling (my idea)......talking to her (but she hates talking things out..she just walks away).......and even kissing her ass. I don't know what else to do. I pray everynight before bed hoping that this will work itself out but as each passing day goes by and nothing good has come to pass....I wonder if he is hearing me.

Really sorry to hear that Sometimes, something is just not meant to be, and no matter how much you try or what you do, it just may not work out. But have peace knowing that you have tried everything. That what is meant to be will be, no matter what. That this too shall pass, and everyone will be better off in the long run. I once heard that our lives are the paths that we have chosen and made for our souls to grow in certain ways, and it is all meant to happen the way it does. Even if I don't believe this myself at times, it has helped me.

[grapeape]

superman, I understand where your at and the one scripture that has halped me more than anything is. Husbands love your wife as Christ loves the church.. And I think of the love and patience and longsuffering he has given me and I realize that who am I to judge and look down on her. Something else that helped was I get my wife to pray with me for our family and to ask GOD to bind us together with HIS cords OF Unity And Love... I will add your family to the list bro. and if you ever need to talk just give me a holla.

[techsonia]

my wife is my life
without her - i am nothing - hope god gives me good sense and blessing to always keep this gorgeous woman happy.

[catadrioptic]

It is easy in new-found love to separate marriage from the
purpose of life. But marriage is only a way of life. As a way, it
has meaning only in terms of its destination. Either it will
offer you an opportunity for the growth and development of
yourselves as followers of Christ, or it will prove an empty,
frustrating experience. There are many types of "love" and
"happiness" between the sexes. Some are shallow, some are
counterfeit, and some are little more than thinly disguised
selfishness. True love and happiness are rooted in life. They are
developmental. They are aids to personal perfection, not
distractions or positive hindrances.
marriage, as the sacrament of two in one flesh, has a
further sublime meaning. It symbolizes the union of Christ and
His Church, and is consequently the sign of something eminently
holy. As the visible image of a sacred thing--the mystical union
of Christ and His Church--your marriage is holy. It becomes the
source of those supernatural graces which we have mentioned
above. Just as the union of Christ and the Church is the
efficacious cause of numerous graces, so your marriage, as a
symbol and type of this mystical union, supplies the grace needed
for your mutual sanctification as husband and wife. In other
words, your marriage is an efficacious sign, that is, it contains
and causes the grace which it signifies.

Moreover, since marriage is the visible image of the
mystical union of Christ and His Church, The love as husband and
wife must be patterned after the love of Christ for the Church.
Christ loved with a boundless love, seeking not His own
advantage, but only the good of His spouse--"even unto death." So
your love must be expressed in mutual service. seeking the good
of your partner considered not only as a marriage mate, but as a
companion on the road to perfection

[gator_mclusky]

Good read for sure!!!!

gator